via “I Wish…”
I will make our story true
Because in some places its a lie
Trying in the eyes of others.
Make them see what could have been
what should have been true
How we work together.
How i have been hurting you
How we can surpass the end of time.
Faithful and true; what are the parts of me, that are you….
As snow birds and travelers move about
allochthonous… misplaced but leaving a mark.
A plain of discovery.
Parts that are hurting yet growing me
Is it ok to partake of selective fruit
What blends of pudendal juice
Wanting to be dissected
Small circle questions
could he ask
How dare that enter the mind
The world is too big too many choices
To fill and empty 1 glass
Knowing my mind
Reviewing our time
the past was the last
Open mind open time
Plural or singular you are always mine
I am always yours
My more will come with time
I believe in the black & white
The ups and downs
But there is always the gray
Everything is never
Cut and dry
west and east
Life always brings us to the in-betweens
never live in this area
The place where things ideas and people slip by.
The gray is where the time flies
Where everything blends
Where the secrets start and end
I see the growth in me
I feel the growth in me
I see and feel the need…
to keep this growth with me
life moves at such a pace
Its frigid yet fast paced
Depressing and succession based
Upsets with love and lusts
Entombed; yet flower laced
Im doing things different
Really feeling the time difference
Seeing my time different
Living and dying
same instant, Same movement
Expansion with confinement
Responsibilities bring duress
Animation supports transition
From simple to complex…
© Da Absentee 2016
“As Always…. Stay Positive!”
People don’t change…
They just change the things they do…
When a single crab is put into a lidless bucket, they surely can and will escape. However, when more than one share a bucket, none can get out. If one crab elevates themself above all, the others will grab this crab and drag’em back down to share the mutual fate of the rest of the group.
Often used to describe social situations where one person is trying to better themself and others in the community attempt to pull them back down.
As a people we see this all too often. It can be applied to so many areas of life. Instead of trying to build each other up we constantly pull and put each other down. Instead of using our experiences and knowledge to help be a footing to help others, so that they can get a foot; we shoot them in foot!
The modern day syndrome of negativity where we always hate and discourage one another is just staggering. Friends envy friends, family plotting against family. In all truth family members are probably the most guilty of the ‘crab mentality’. The reason being they are usually the closest to you, have more access to you and will be the first to see any progress on a small or larger scale. Which they will be ready to judge, poke and dis-member.
In the work place we do not work as a cohesive unit, we steal ideas, act as whistleblowers and discourage forward thinking simply because our thinking is that we should be better off than a co-worker. This then leads to ‘double work’ less productivity, less morale and quality of work then falters.
I can safely say that as a society especially in the black community we have inadvertently set up a standard “hate policy”. That any and everything that is not set with the ‘norm’ or is not aligned with our way of thinking and understanding that “If it is not for us. Then it must be against us.”
I believe that everyone with reasonably decent parenting in their lives would have been told at one point or another that it was “ok, to share” . Something in-stilled so early in life should have had a better hold in our core way of thinking because it is (I think) the simplest way of thinking to defeat ‘crab mentality’.
We come to points in our lives where sometimes we have to be that ‘co-star’. We have to fight the urge and longing to be the ones in the limelight. We have to become the person on the side doing the work and doing more, the behind the scenes that never gets the proper credit . These are the type of people, the inspirations, the muses and the supports who do more by playing their position for the better good.
We have become ok with being opposites and pulling in the other direction. we have set up a constant negative. That women must sleep around to get ahead. Everyone is looking for the quick buck, that no one wants to work hard anymore or he must be selling drugs way of thinking.
Who is to blame? We only have ourselves to blame.
We as black people should attempt to be a part of the ‘Talented Tenth’ where we help each other progress, set goals to improve ourselves which in turn, improve our surroundings which will improve others around us.
We need to strive to be a platform to help each other up and propel from. So that when one of us arrives to a new level, we always turn around and bring the ones we have surpassed. That the cycle of help, support, encouragement and goodwill continues on…